Actress Kylie Padilla has finally responded to the accusations of her ex-husband Aljur Abrenica in a tell-all interview on KMJS (“Kapuso Mo, Jessica Soho”), October 24.
How is she?
“Honestly, I’m doing good. Kasi I just finished a project, and I just moved into a new house. So I’m doing really good.
“Kailangan kasi, may mga anak ako na nakatingin. As much as possible, I don’t want to make it hard.”
Reaction on Aljur’s trending “breaking silence” post?
“Yung mga lumabas na statement, medyo nagulat din ako. It’s unfair if I don’t have a say because I was part of the marriage, dalawa kami. Gusto kong matapos yung mga nangyayari sa amin na friends kami. But parang nag i-iba ata yung ihip ng hangin.
“Ang dami kong pwedeng sabihin na ikakasira niya cause we were both in the marriage. But I chose to keep quite na lang about the details. Hindi naman makakatulong sa amin. He knows what he did wrong. I know what I did wrong.
“This started nung February and I opened the door so that everyone can have a say. But for me kasi, that time, I was suffering.
“I didn’t know how to handle what I was going through.
“And I’m sorry. I learned from that mistake.
“If we do want to blame each other, maybe we can do it in the right place, not on social media.
“If I say my side, hindi siya makakatulong. So in some way, I’m still trying to protect what I can kasi ayoko talagang tuluyan ng gumulo. Kasi lalaki yung mga anak ko, mapapanuod nila ito and ayokong makita nila. As a mother, I have to protect what I can… I promise not to cry!
“I know my truth eh, I know what I went through and I know what he went through and ang alam ko lang parehas kaming hindi masaya.
“And if we play the blaming game, what are we going to get with trying to attack with each other, online? I mean, who it’s helping? Let’s do it in court na lang kung gusto mo ng ganung labanan.
“Na-hurt ako sobra, sa sinabi niya na I wrecked the family. Hindi ko in-expect yun because we had agreement – sabay tayong magpapa-interview para at least after nito kahit maghihiwalay na tayo, we’re still united front. Iniisip pa rin namin na family kami.
“In my defense, while we were formally married, I never had any extra marital relationships with other men. That is my truth!
“Okay sana kung ginawa ko eh. I would say ‘I’m sorry!’ Pero hindi talaga eh, and that’s what they kept throwing at me. Paano ako aamin sa isang bagay na hindi ko naman ginawa?
“Siyempre when you say ‘cheated,’ ang unang iniisip ng mga tao, nanlalaki. So talagang in their minds, talagang ginawa ko yun. And may mga blind items that said that. Saan nanggagaling yung mga ito kasi kung totoo talaga, aamin ko. But, like, hindi talaga siya totoo kaya natatawa na lang ako.
“Paano ako magkakaroon ng oras, I was breastfeeding my second. Paano ako aalis? Kung gusto niyo ng ebidensya tanungin niyo mga yaya ko.
“I’m angry kasi I’m raising my children. They don’t see that. Sobrang unfair pero I have to be strong in our society din. Kung hahayaan ko na maapektuhan ako sa mga sinasabi nila, hindi ko mapapalaki yung mga anak ko ng sane ako. And ayokong makita nila yun. Kaya nga, gaya ng sinabi ko kanina, humuhugot talaga ako sa kanila. Kailangan makita nila na ‘Kaya ng mom ko, kaya ko rin!’
“There are names (as third party). Natatawa na lang din ako kasi nag usap na kami ni JM (de Guzman) diyan eh. Natatawa din kami. ‘Wow, paano nasali yung pangalan ko diyan?’ ‘Di ko alam, pasensiya na, sorry.’
“There are three women that came out. Yun na lang sasabihin ko.”
“It shows you a lot about why I chose to end it. Kasi I want to grow. I want to grow as a person. And I want to be a better mother. The circumstances sa marriage namin, parang feeling ko hindi ko magagawa yun.
“Yung sinabi niyang I wrecked the family, it’s because I decided na ayoko na. And I want to be a better person. I want to be happy. And I want him to be happy. Kaming dalawa yung iniisip ko when I decided that. And if you asked him now, he agrees, okay yung mga nangyari kasi happy na siya, happy na ako. So I’m confused why he’s doing this because we both agreed.
On Aljur’s new flame, AJ shared the actor’s post:
“I actually wanted to talk to her (AJ Raval) kasi napagdaanan ko rin yan nung bina-bash ako dahil nililigawan ako. And I wanted to talk to her, to help her out na… on how to handle it para maiwasan lang yung nangyari ngayon. But my help is not being asked, so I’m not going to give it na lang.
“I totally understand kung dun sila nanggagaling kasi siyempre, siya yung bagong nililigawan, naba-bash na sila. I’ve been on that side and I know how scary and confusing and sobrang nakakasira siya ng mental health, di ba. But I wish na iningatan na lang nila. They can’t blame me for that too cause we had an agreement din na we can both see other people. I wish you guys were more careful. Don’t blame it on me.
“The decision to end our marriage was hard on me. I believed in making it work eh. But I felt like, for the longest time, I felt alone in the marriage.
“Yung cheating was just a last straw. Ang daming nangyari. Which is why I can’t say kung ano yung nangyaring yun because I’m trying to protect nga what I can.
“Mahirap sa akin. But I said: ‘Okay, it’s enough.’
Kylie Padilla gives a tell-all interview on KMJS
“Napagalitan ako dun. In that moment I was reckless, for me to post that. But it’s just how I felt cause sinabi niya na ako yung unang nag-cheat. It’s so unfair cause people don’t know what happened. Talagang maniniwala sila. And so I posted that. He’s trying to blame me again.
“Feeling ko there’s history na unfair talaga sa babae. Pero feeling ko patas lang kasi I understand din kung saan nanggagaling yung ex ko, cause my dad, he cares, nakita niya na malungkot ako nung time na yun so nakapagsalita siya. Naramdaman ni Aljur na kailangan niyang sabihin yung side niya and he’s entitled pero it boils down kasi kung paano natin iha-handle yung sitwasyon eh.
“Nung pinasok nila yung sitwasyon na yun, alam naman nila kung ano yung sasabihin ng mga tao. Kasi on papers, we’re still married even though we’re separated. Sana iningatan na lang.
On her relationship with Aljur:
“Iniisip ko pa rin yung relationship namin is friends eh. We have kids. We need to co-parent and ayokong maranasan nila na toxic yung parents nila kahit hiwalay na. Kung masa-save ko pa sana yung friendship namin, ta’s tuwing magkikita kami para kunin yung mga bata, okay kami. Ayokong tuluyang sirain ko siya o magbatuhan kami. Hindi yun yung gusto kong mangyari. Tsaka hanggang ngayon, kahit tanungin ako ng mga tao, I still want him to be happy. Sana talaga we move forward from this and we both end up happy.
“Ayoko na ng toxic. Pinagdaanan ko na yun when I was younger, alam ko yung pakiramdam. Gusto kong protektahan yung mga anak ko sa ganung set up.
“They’re (kids) good, they’re happy. May mga nakakalungkot lang na moments, minsan hinahanap nila yung tatay nila. I-ne-explain ko lang ‘Magkikita rin kayo, don’t worry.’
“They witnessed some of it (their fights), the last few months of our marriage. Which is also isa sa mga dahilan kung bakit nag choose ako na to end it na lang. Gusto ko ng iwasan na tumagal na nakikita nila yun cause I don’t want them to think na normal yun sa isang relasyon.
“Hindi ko pa siya nakakausap. But I think he wants me to handle it.
Did she regret choosing Aljur over her career?
“Wala (akong regret) kasi si Alas yung nasa tiyan ko nun eh. I wanted to be a mom. Alam mo we we’re so good during that time. Sobrang, yun yung pinaka the best times ng relationship namin. Kasi we’ve been together for 10 years na, married for 3. Pero nun, yung mga time na yun, inalagaan niya talaga ako. Na-appreciate ko siya as a husband and as a person lalo na during those days.
How she keeps her calm:
“Ayoko kasing gawing negative lahat eh. There were good moments din naman eh. And I don’t want to throw them away kasi kahit papaano. In my kids, there’s still a part of their dad. I wanna see their dad in a good way para, di ba, pagnakikita ko yung mga anak ko ‘Tatay niyo yun, you should be proud!’
“I suffered in silence eh. I suffered really bad in February. Which is why nakapag-post ako. Ayokong mag-stay dun sa suffering and pain kasi lahat yun pinagdaanan ko. Naglasing ako and all that – yung ginagawa ng nag mo-move on. I did it, but I did it in private so that hindi sila gagaya. So, I’m trying to be a better person na lang.
“Ang tawag ko nga diyan circus. Naging circus yung nangyari sa amin. And it’s really sad.
“Hindi naman ako pwedeng mag complain kasi artista ako.”
Message for Aljur:
“Huwag nating kalimutan to be parents sa mga anak natin and sana ma-save pa natin yung friendship after this. And kung gusto nating mag-away, whatever, let’s do it in the right place. Wag na sa public. Yun lang ang hinihingi ko, please.”
Transcript from Manila Bulletin