I am regularly called a misogynistic racist. I don’t necessarily fight the labels either because those who tar me with the hate brush are so caught up in their own political correctness that they can barely remember what it is to be a human being. People say that travel broadens the mind, it certainly has in my case, it has also taught me a lot about just how similar (and how different) we all really are. To label me racist, as in broadly racist, is not fair nor reasonable. There are a lot of people of many different races that I count among my friends, I’m also one of the few white people that I know that has spent the vast majority of their life living as a part of a minority. I’m not the only person on planet earth who has spent and continues to spend their life as a part of a racial minority, I am one of the few who CHOSE to do so. The fact that I made, and continue to make that choice puts me in a position to pretty much meet those who call me a misogynistic racist with a resounding call of fuck you.
I have a mother, I have a wife and I have a daughter. I have female cousins, aunts, grandmothers and all sorts of other women in my life who I love, hold dear and most certainly do not think should be marginalized. I also have a brother, a father, uncles and many men in my life who are being marginalized by the feminist movement and it seems, a little bit like Jews playing the anti-Semitic card, that anyone who disagrees with women these days is instantly labeled as a woman hater. This is a really good way for women to close down the narrative, people are so afraid of being called a misogynist these days that they back away from the discussion rather than engage in it. The same goes for some racial groups, the New Zealand Maori being probably the best example of this. Why do I single them out? They are a race with which I have some experience, culturally they tend to be violent, lazy and have a penchant for substance abuse. They are also held up on a pedestal by the New Zealand government.
Don’t believe me? Here’s an example
Let me share an anecdote to support what I’ve just said so that anyone reading this knows that I’m not talking out of the wrong orifice. When I was in New Zealand a few years ago I thought that I might try and make a go of it. I had years of international experience and felt that, given the opportunity, I could really contribute something to New Zealand society. I was also coming off the back of an extended illness and was not particularly cashed up. The New Zealand welfare state has a system whereby people in straightened circumstances can apply for small business grants. I saw this as an ideal opportunity and went ahead and jumped through the necessary hoops to meet their requirements. I then presented at Work and Income New Zealand and pitched their small business people.
I was very confident that I was in a strong position to be considered. The response? Well, the response just about blew me away. Totally ignoring my pitch, not even reading the business plan I was told outright that I didn’t have a hope in hell unless I was either an ex-convict or identified as New Zealand Maori. The simple fact that I am a white male precluded me from accessing funds from a welfare state that I had spent a good portion of my 20s paying money into. My response? I got my shit together as quickly as I could, did my best not to contribute any further to a system that was clearly beyond broken and was back in my minority position in Asia within six months. I did not see the point in being somewhere that I was judged by my race and gender, nor do I think it’s ok for people to attack me when I make comments that appear to show a racial or gender bias.
One day I’d like someone to explain to me why it is ok to be a contributor to a welfare state as a white male but it’s not ok to ask that welfare state for assistance when you need it. No one ever told me, when I was busy paying my taxes, that they didn’t want my money because of my race. It’s a double standard, it’s wrong and the fact that so many people tolerate it simply because they’re afraid of being called racist pisses me off. Of course the standard response from Maori is that my ancestors stole their land, they didn’t. My ancestors didn’t steal shit, my ancestors were poor Irish immigrants who worked hard to buy a plot of land, clean it up, make it productive and turn it into a profitable venture.
History is a bitch
History is a bitch, and if your ancestors were wronged by someone who just happened to be racially similar to me, it is not my fault and it’s not my responsibility to pick up their check. The sooner everyone realizes that the solution to racial marginalization is not more racial marginalization the better off we’ll all be. I wonder, if I were of New Zealand Polynesian extraction, how I would’ve felt hearing that conversation at Work & Income. To sit there and hear someone who is of the same nationality as myself be told that it was pretty clear that since they’re a white male they’ll be ok but that if they were either Maori or a convict (said in the same breath) they probably needed the help. To realize that the government in the country that I was so proud of felt that I was too weak and useless to do it for myself. To come to the earth shattering realization that my own people and my own elected representatives had finally given people of my race exactly what we’d been asking for, protection from life because we clearly could not cope on our own. I think it probably would have pissed me off, quite possibly even more so than it did to hear at as a “privileged white male” (which I’m not – I have worked hard for everything I’ve ever had).
If it was only happening in New Zealand then it wouldn’t be such a big deal. It’s a small and relatively insignificant country in the middle of nowhere; it also seems to be a pretty good example of what is happening in other places. In Germany, in South Africa and Australia – inter generational racial guilt is marginalizing white people. You could say that it doesn’t matter, that it is in fact true that white males don’t need the assistance, that we are somehow more able to survive life – if you did and you didn’t have brown skin or a government mandate though, you’d be labeled an ignorant racist. You could also say it slightly differently. That brown people are inherently less useful and weaker than white people, it’s obvious – they wouldn’t need the help otherwise. Once again, unless you were a member of a very specific racial group when you made that statement you’d be immediately tarred with the racist brush and in many countries probably prosecuted (or at the very least judged by broader society) for hate speech. How is this fair and how is this reasonable? Not only are we expected to contribute to a welfare system that we don’t have full access to, we’re also expected to censor ourselves.
It’s not just about race either. It’s also about gender. White males are probably the most hated people on planet earth, why is this? It’s historical, historically (and I mean before I ever became a contributing member of society) lots of white men did lots of nasty stuff to lots of people. I’d like to say – so fucking what. It wasn’t me, I wasn’t there and it’s not my fault. Two wrongs don’t make a right (just like two wongs don’t make a white) and to marginalize ANYONE based on race or gender is wrong. Guess what women, you’re liberated. You’re now some of the most powerful people in the world. You’re CEOs, the most powerful person in Europe is a woman, there is a woman running for president in the United States – everywhere you look, powerful women.
Powerful women are awesome
I fully support the concept of powerful women, it gives me hope that one day I might be a kept man. You’ve got the vote, you’ve got the opportunity, the “pay gap” is a bullshit statistic, if you want more, then fight for it – after all that’s how all those men that you hate so much got there in the first place. The playing field is leveled, in fact, it has been tipped quite significantly in your favor. Don’t like what I’m saying – argue with me, you now have that right. Opportunity brings with it responsibility, no matter what your race or gender. You have a responsibility to contribute to society and to make good decisions, especially if you’re in a position of influence. So stop playing the poor fucking me card and get the hell on with it.
I’d like to put my hand up and say that I am not afraid to say that I am over it, I’m sick and fucking tired of people closing down discourse simply because they throw their gender or their race into the conversation. I work for myself these days, the gender politics and affirmative action of the workforce is behind me. I also work very hard for my family. The mother of my child is a woman, a brown woman. She chooses not to work full time, it is her choice, not my mandate that drives this. I get judged harshly for this too, because we have what could probably be loosely termed as a “traditional” family unit with a male breadwinner and a female in the nurturing position with our children.
Since when did being a mother become some torrid embarrassment? She’s an extremely good mother and it is my privilege to support her in that desire. Apparently that makes me a misogynist. Apparently the fact that I hold the opinion that every human being, white, black, brown or yellow deserves the same rights and opportunities as every other human being makes me a racist. I’m not the only person who thinks like this, but because I’m white, male and hardworking I am judged. How’s that for a racial and gender bias?
There are those who will read this who think it’s just white males getting a taste of their own bitter medicine. To this I say bullshit, I never kept slaves, I didn’t steal anyone’s land and I’ve never made a hiring decision based on gender. Some of the people who did these things were white males, that doesn’t mean that they represent me, nor that I represent their prejudice. In all the same ways that every black man is not Robert Mugabe, every Jew does not support land theft on the West Bank and the killing of Palestinian children and every German is not Adolf Hitler. I am not any of these people either, I am me, you are you. Your skin is whatever color it is, and mine is too. The fact that I have a penis, and it’s a white one does not make it ok to marginalize me, just like it’s not ok to marginalize someone with a black vagina.